Comments on: 7 Truths You May Be Running From http://www.pluginid.com/7-truths/ Personal Development Blog to Plug You Into Your Identity Tue, 31 Jan 2012 15:40:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: jude http://www.pluginid.com/7-truths/comment-page-1/#comment-10645 jude Wed, 08 Sep 2010 17:12:13 +0000 http://www.pluginid.com/?p=3260#comment-10645 I've been aware for sometime that I "like to be unhappy". Specifically, I noticed I complain a lot. I do keep a gratitude journal and I feel as though when I am left to my own thoughts, I don't feel as negative as I do when I start interacting with others. Everytime I catch myself complaining/being negative to someone, l I get irritated with myself and nothing changes.. Self-awareness is only half the battle. My question is, what further steps can I take to stop complaining? I noticed I use things to complain about as food for conversation. Like, when there is a lack of something better to say, there is plenty of things to complain about- and with some people I get positively-reinforced to continue the habit b/c they enjoy complaining too. This is not the way I want to build relationships, not through a 'misery loves company' format. This is definitely one of those habits that is hindering me from having the type of relationships I want from life AND from living in a more blissful state. I’ve been aware for sometime that I “like to be unhappy”. Specifically, I noticed I complain a lot.

I do keep a gratitude journal and I feel as though when I am left to my own thoughts, I don’t feel as negative as I do when I start interacting with others. Everytime I catch myself complaining/being negative to someone, l I get irritated with myself and nothing changes..

Self-awareness is only half the battle. My question is, what further steps can I take to stop complaining? I noticed I use things to complain about as food for conversation. Like, when there is a lack of something better to say, there is plenty of things to complain about- and with some people I get positively-reinforced to continue the habit b/c they enjoy complaining too. This is not the way I want to build relationships, not through a ‘misery loves company’ format. This is definitely one of those habits that is hindering me from having the type of relationships I want from life AND from living in a more blissful state.

]]> By: Flo http://www.pluginid.com/7-truths/comment-page-1/#comment-9654 Flo Wed, 12 May 2010 17:31:25 +0000 http://www.pluginid.com/?p=3260#comment-9654 Regarding "Your habits suck": I've found a website once, called http://habitforge.com/, which helps you getting rid of a bad habit in about 21 days. It does that by sending you an e-mail each day, asking you if you've been successful with your task the day before. It helped me quit smoking about 6 weeks ago. Most important is, that you have to really want to get rid of the habit you're about to change. I've been smoking for almost 10 years and tried to quit a few times, but never really successful (a week tops). This time I was really eager to quit for a lot of reasons. The first few days I got the e-mail I was able to answer yes. Then I smoked a cigarette and had to answer no the next day. The system set me back to zero. That happend a few times and got really frustrating after a while. So I quit quitting and followed through. Like I said, I haven't smoked one cigarette for 6 weeks now and makes me feel good and proud of myself. And you're right, bad habits will hold you back. Smoking is just stupid and a pain in the ass, but, for example, being lazy or withdrawing in the wrong situations, that can really do damage to what you actually wanted. One should pick the most ugly ones and then start to work on them. Flo Regarding “Your habits suck”: I’ve found a website once, called http://habitforge.com/, which helps you getting rid of a bad habit in about 21 days. It does that by sending you an e-mail each day, asking you if you’ve been successful with your task the day before.

It helped me quit smoking about 6 weeks ago. Most important is, that you have to really want to get rid of the habit you’re about to change. I’ve been smoking for almost 10 years and tried to quit a few times, but never really successful (a week tops). This time I was really eager to quit for a lot of reasons. The first few days I got the e-mail I was able to answer yes. Then I smoked a cigarette and had to answer no the next day. The system set me back to zero. That happend a few times and got really frustrating after a while. So I quit quitting and followed through. Like I said, I haven’t smoked one cigarette for 6 weeks now and makes me feel good and proud of myself.

And you’re right, bad habits will hold you back. Smoking is just stupid and a pain in the ass, but, for example, being lazy or withdrawing in the wrong situations, that can really do damage to what you actually wanted. One should pick the most ugly ones and then start to work on them.

Flo

]]> By: Eoin Meegan http://www.pluginid.com/7-truths/comment-page-1/#comment-9650 Eoin Meegan Wed, 12 May 2010 11:29:50 +0000 http://www.pluginid.com/?p=3260#comment-9650 yes, I liked what you said about wanting to be unhappy. This is more widespread than people realize. We all have a red button that we want to push that will self destruct. This is rooted in the constant messages we get form society that we must feel a certain way, the implication that a contrary state is "wrong", then, as a result, we are not comfortable with whatever it is we're feeling. Good article. yes, I liked what you said about wanting to be unhappy. This is more widespread than people realize. We all have a red button that we want to push that will self destruct. This is rooted in the constant messages we get form society that we must feel a certain way, the implication that a contrary state is “wrong”, then, as a result, we are not comfortable with whatever it is we’re feeling. Good article.

]]> By: Elegantly Wasted » A list of random thoughts http://www.pluginid.com/7-truths/comment-page-1/#comment-9542 Elegantly Wasted » A list of random thoughts Sun, 02 May 2010 14:06:33 +0000 http://www.pluginid.com/?p=3260#comment-9542 [...] change it and find the life and world that you do want to love. This sums up my cravings for life. This sums up everything that is wrong with me right now. I had a really good conversation down the pub [...] [...] change it and find the life and world that you do want to love. This sums up my cravings for life. This sums up everything that is wrong with me right now. I had a really good conversation down the pub [...]

]]> By: Monday Mash-up #2 http://www.pluginid.com/7-truths/comment-page-1/#comment-9541 Monday Mash-up #2 Sun, 02 May 2010 13:48:56 +0000 http://www.pluginid.com/?p=3260#comment-9541 [...] 7 Truths you may be running from over at PluginID… if you ever needed a post that caused you take a good long hard look at yourself.. I suggest this may the one. [...] [...] 7 Truths you may be running from over at PluginID… if you ever needed a post that caused you take a good long hard look at yourself.. I suggest this may the one. [...]

]]> By: Michael Michalowski http://www.pluginid.com/7-truths/comment-page-1/#comment-9535 Michael Michalowski Fri, 30 Apr 2010 07:25:47 +0000 http://www.pluginid.com/?p=3260#comment-9535 Great Article, I've put it as my start page in my browser to read it again and again. :D I think there is enough value to extract from it, that we all should read it more often than once and leave it "bookmarked as great content" somewhere in the back of our pc. keep going! Great Article, I’ve put it as my start page in my browser to read it again and again. :D

I think there is enough value to extract from it, that we all should read it more often than once and leave it “bookmarked as great content” somewhere in the back of our pc.

keep going!

]]> By: Practicing mindfulness…an experiment. « Make the World http://www.pluginid.com/7-truths/comment-page-1/#comment-9532 Practicing mindfulness…an experiment. « Make the World Thu, 29 Apr 2010 23:11:13 +0000 http://www.pluginid.com/?p=3260#comment-9532 [...] Posted in Uncategorized by Sara on April 29, 2010 Today I was reading another blog, Plug In ID and came across a rather simple definition of mindfulness.  I hear that term all the time.  [...] [...] Posted in Uncategorized by Sara on April 29, 2010 Today I was reading another blog, Plug In ID and came across a rather simple definition of mindfulness.  I hear that term all the time.  [...]

]]> By: Dean - Fearlessroad.com http://www.pluginid.com/7-truths/comment-page-1/#comment-9527 Dean - Fearlessroad.com Wed, 28 Apr 2010 14:11:44 +0000 http://www.pluginid.com/?p=3260#comment-9527 Very inspiring post Bud! I haven't commented on this blog in a while, however this post definitely helped me identify two main truths I have been constantly denying and I would like to thank you :) One, my habits are holding me back from being productive, and Two, my fear of stepping out of my comfort zone is stopping me embrace positive change. Thanks again and I look forward to reading some more of your work, Dean Very inspiring post Bud!

I haven’t commented on this blog in a while, however this post definitely helped me identify two main truths I have been constantly denying and I would like to thank you :) One, my habits are holding me back from being productive, and Two, my fear of stepping out of my comfort zone is stopping me embrace positive change.

Thanks again and I look forward to reading some more of your work,

Dean

]]> By: Bud http://www.pluginid.com/7-truths/comment-page-1/#comment-9457 Bud Sat, 24 Apr 2010 08:15:43 +0000 http://www.pluginid.com/?p=3260#comment-9457 Congrats man. I'm proud of you. Congrats man. I’m proud of you.

]]> By: Richard | RichardShelmerdine.com http://www.pluginid.com/7-truths/comment-page-1/#comment-9455 Richard | RichardShelmerdine.com Sat, 24 Apr 2010 05:56:34 +0000 http://www.pluginid.com/?p=3260#comment-9455 I definitely know how remarkable I am, I've done so much with my blog already this year. I think relationships hold me back though. Thanks for this post, it helped me face some denial inside of me. I definitely know how remarkable I am, I’ve done so much with my blog already this year. I think relationships hold me back though. Thanks for this post, it helped me face some denial inside of me.

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