What is my Purpose in Life?

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This is not the typical personal development post because it deals with questions that are fundamental to achieving true and lasting happiness. Most people who claim to be plugging into their identity have not answered these most basic questions. They do not have clarity of purpose and without that, one can never achieve what I call, being fully alive.

It Always Starts with Your Thoughts

If you are going to do anything worthwhile in life, you must start by changing your thinking. You must answer some very basic questions about what I like to call ultimate questions.

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Change: the Good, the Bad and the Facelift

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Someone very wise once said, “change is the only constant in life.”

And that is certainly true for PluginID. This is Adam, the owner of this blog and I have some good news and some bad news. How about the good news first?  This blog has some exciting things happening in the near future. For example, PluginID has a new writer, moi!  Here is a recent photo of my family and me. This was taken while on our vacation to Palm Desert this past June.

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Don’t Take Things Too Seriously

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The rest of the world, including me, takes things way too seriously.

So what if you fail at implementing self-improvement advice? I’ve failed countless times in my fight to get organized and acquire laser-like focus.

So whut if you make a couple of speling errors or typos? It doesn’t change the person that you are and it’s not that big of a deal because people understand you 90% of the time when you make a mistake anyways. And this is coming from a person who’s a total grammar Nazi. Do typos bug me? Yeah. But do they matter, in the grand scheme of things? Not really.

For all the serious stuff we preach — like getting your life into order, figuring out how to live “well”, cultivating good habits — we hardly ever take a step back and laugh at ourselves, at the absurdity that we feel like we need to absorb all these self-improvement concepts in order to live a good life.

You don’t, guys. Life isn’t that serious. It’s a tragicomedy,...

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How Much Do You Really Need?

You should ask yourself this on a daily basis — “How much do I really need?”

I’ll give you a hint: you don’t need much. You don’t need a fancy car, you don’t need that kick-ass apartment, you don’t need that new smartphone. You don’t need much, my friend.

Here’s what I think you need to live a fantastic life: good food, good shelter (while you don’t need an awesome place, at least get something that feels like home), fantastic relationships with people you love, work that fulfills you, and a good set of habits (like the habit of being a good, kind person).

That’s it. You don’t really need anything else.

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Embrace the Pain (If You Want to Grow)

Lately, I haven’t been training as hard as I should be. Actually, to be honest, I’m not doing anything as well as I should be; I’m not as productive as I’d like to be, I’m not reading as much as I’d like to, and I’m not eating as well as I’d like to.

Determined to get myself into better shape – hockey season’s been over for the past 3 months or so, and I haven’t done as much as I’d like to to have kept myself in shape – I bought a pair of new running shoes on Sunday and went running (well, sprinting) yesterday.

What happened? Before every set of sprints, I was consumed by fear. I was feeling the pain of running in advance. I was nervous – not because I was worried that I wouldn’t perform well, but because I knew that, in order to grow and get faster, I was going to have to run. Which meant that I’d have to go through pain; my lungs would burn while my legs would be begging me to stop. Even though I knew that I had to...

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Slow Down, Please

One of my biggest flaws as a person is that I’m always trying to move fast. Being a productivity junkie will do that to you: I’m always trying to do things as efficiently as possible so I can move onto the next thing. The logic is, of course, that the faster I do things, the more I’ll be able to do, and the more I do, the happier I’ll be. Getting a lot of things done just feels good.

Of course, by perpetually focusing on getting the thing I’m doing done so I can move onto the next thing, I’m never really focused on or enjoying the thing I’m doing in the present – for example, writing this post. I’m worried about reading Infinite Jest later (which is an awesome, awesome book, by the way), and after that, working out, and after that, meditating, and after that, cleaning up my RSS feeds, my twitter feed, and realigning my life on the Internet so I can do what I need to do in order to make this blog grow more and enjoy myself along the way...

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Disconnect! Live in the Real World

For those of you who live on the Internet, I urge you to continue your addiction for the next 3 minutes and read this post.

Are you comfortable? Good. Let’s begin.

For so long, I thought that relationships on the Internet were an acceptable substitute for real-life relationships. No – I don’t mean that I had long-distance relationships over Skype with a girl from British Columbia, as interesting and cool as that may sound. No, I mean that I thought that all the energy I poured into blogging and building relationships here, in the digital realm, could replace the relationships that I let fail in real life.

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Keep It Simple!

When you think about it, life is pretty simple.

Accept what is – everything about your reality and yourself, just accept what is, and move on.

Live in the present. Don’t dwell on the past or the future. Focus on what you can change in the here and now.

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If You’re Always Busy, You’re Never Reflecting

Note from Brett: sorry for the inactivity for the past week, everyone. I managed my time and energy poorly and made a mistake in scheduling this post, which is why it’s running today instead of last Thursday. I couldn’t correct my mistake since I was out visiting the University of Pennsylvania and didn’t have a computer.

As much as I like to be productive, sometimes it’s productive to not be productive at all.

Our busy lives and all of our obligations threaten to swallow up every last second of free time that we have. If you’re not actively doing something, everyone preaches, you’re wasting time.

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You Cannot Change…

…What is out of your control.

Why, then, do we spend so much time trying to do things in an effort to change what cannot be changed by us alone? It’s an exercise in futility to try to change what cannot be changed. (Note: sometimes your brain will lie to you, and things that appear to be uncontrollable or unchangeable actually can be controlled or changed. It’s a matter of discretion and being able to see the truth of the situation).

All your mental complaining about how you’re not good enough or how your coworker Bert gets on your nerves so much doesn’t do a thing. It’s not constructive. It’s not helping your situation in any tangible way. And it creates a pattern where you get addicted to negativity because your body actually likes when you get mad, due to the increased levels of emotional arousal. If nothing else, getting outraged about things, however small, lets you know you’re still alive.

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