After the Feasts and Fireworks

It’s the first evening of the year. Everything seems to be “quieter” now – from our neighborhood to my schedule. And reality is setting in.

Now I feel that my feet and back are aching. Perhaps, it’s from all the holiday shopping and attending parties here and there. And I begin to wonder about 2013.

I’d be a hypocrite to say that I don’t have a sliver of anxiety as the year starts. That I’m simply happy and excited about 2013. I’m not.

My husband and I have a big loan we need to pay soon. The questions my daughter’s asking will become more and more difficult to answer. More of my family and old friends might be relocating. We’ll all be turning a year older. And so on. I can let anxiety eat me up about every single thing in my life until I’m left with nothing.

But I can also choose to live my life – to see challenges as opportunities for me to pray harder and push further to become a better person. I want to stay with this choice. And now I don’t see any reason why I shouldn’t.

I believe that we can’t control everything in life, but we’re never given anything we can’t handle. And I’ve always wished to grow old gracefully, especially in heart, mind, and spirit. I think welcoming what I have ahead, no matter how uncertain it is, strengthens my faith about the use of our talents. It also fulfills my wish about maturity.

My final thought this evening: I hope and pray that this year I’ll focus less on the things I don’t have any hold of. Instead, I want to put my efforts on using whatever I have so I can do what I need to accomplish for myself, my family, and the people around me.

What about you? Any thought that’s kept you up on the first night of the year? Care to share your wish or plan for 2013?

Pondering on Poems

My daughter stands up and I can’t help but be amazed at how she’s grown. And then I get teary-eyed. As the year nears its end, the more I go nostalgic about everything. I start thinking about how time has flown and about all other clichés of life.

I also feel like I’m in the mood to read some poems about appreciating life. No, I’m not actually someone who’s deep into poetry that I can name the poem and the poet from the first line. But when I read something I like, I tend to be inspired by it.

In this short Life

In this short Life
That only lasts an hour
How much — how little — is
Within our power

This poem by Emily Dickinson is like life itself. Short, but can be meaningful, depending on how you interpret it.

Dickinson emphasizes the fleeting nature of our existence in this world by shortening it to 60 minutes. Looking at life this way helps me push myself to do things now and not later.

It’s also up to me to spell life with a capital “L” and doubt that it may be a typographical error. Perhaps, I might consider apologizing for such a mistake. Or I can embrace it, appreciate its uniqueness, and look at it with such significance that I just have to spell it with a capital letter.

The power we have over our lives. It seems like this is something many of us go crazy over. I was such a control freak not too long ago, and sometimes that part of me still comes out. And I’ve also got an inferior attitude that makes me doubt my abilities time and again. I’ve learned that striking a balance is key. I’m given talents and resources that I should hone and use. But I also have to keep in mind that I’ve got limitations, which I can choose to see as a hindrance or as a path to further creativity.

Yesterday is History

Yesterday is History,
‘Tis so far away
Yesterday is Poetry
‘Tis Philosophy

Yesterday is mystery
Where it is Today
While we shrewdly speculate
Flutter both away

It’s another Dickinson poem that inspires me to appreciate my life and look forward to what’s next.

Indeed, I can’t do anything about “Yesterday” now, but remembering its being both “Poetry” and “Philosophy” is also important. Appreciating my past’s beauty and drama gives me wisdom for what I should do for the present and the future.

Life’s always been a mystery and will remain as such. That’s one thing I’ve learned, too. So for me, there’s no point in trying to uncover every bit of it. I believe I’d be wasting my time if I do that. I could spend my time and effort on more productive things. I find that I’m happiest, most fulfilled when I just live each day with a grateful heart.

And I think it’s just fitting to end this post with another simple but touching poem that sums up my wish after some pondering on poems this morning. It’s actually the first and last stanzas of George Herbert’s Gratefulnesse, which are merged and made into a popular prayer for Thanksgiving celebrations:

Thou hast given so much to me,
Give one thing more, – a grateful heart;
Not thankful when it pleaseth me,
As if Thy blessings had spare days,
But such a heart whose pulse may be Thy praise.

 

Another year’s coming in just about a month. What goes on in your mind? Do you suddenly have an attack of sentimental mood like me? Or do you just carry on as usual? Have you got a poem, song, film, or other artwork that inspires you to live your life to its fullest no matter what time of the year?

 

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The Power of Gratitude

 

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Gratitude is such a powerful attitude that influences my values, aspirations, outlook, etc. Having a grateful attitude steers me towards positivity – a sunnier disposition, a higher level of patience, a stronger will to last challenges, and so on.

I’ve put together here my thoughts about some basic areas in life where gratitude can help give positive results – achieving goals, counting more blessings, strengthening relationships, overcoming fear, and staying humble. I’ve also included gratitude quotes that can serve as both inspiration and reminder.

 

Achieving Goals

“Enjoy all you have while pursuing all you want.” – Jim Rohn

Being grateful for what you have doesn’t mean becoming complacent. It doesn’t mean you have to stop improving yourself or achieving more in life. I believe that people who are able to get to the peak of success are often the grateful ones.

If you practice gratitude, you acknowledge your abilities and resources you can use to achieve what you want. You also accept your limitations, but you don’t mope around because of them. Instead, you find a way to defy the challenge. You know that being idle is not just wasting time, but also being thankless.

People who don’t know gratitude, on the other hand, throw away every minute they use thinking about what they don’t have. Many even use whatever they lack as an excuse not to accomplish anything. They make all the unnecessary noise when they should already be thinking of how to make things work to get to their goals.

 

Counting More Blessings

“The aim of life is appreciation; there is no sense in not appreciating things; and there is no sense in having more of them if you have less appreciation of them.” – Gilbert K. Chesterton

You can think of it this way: when you buy a gift for someone, don’t you pick out something that you believe that that someone will love? And when you see that person using or taking care of the gift you gave, you just want to give more.

My late grandfather just came to my mind. It’s such a joy to give gifts to him. If you give him a shirt, he’ll make sure that he wears it the next time you see each other. He’s just happy with every gift that people gave him. He was known to be a thankful and generous person. It isn’t any wonder that his house and office always had guests and gifts. And he also put his whole heart and mind into his work. Would it surprise you that, for quite a long time, he worked two jobs that he both loved? And needless to say, he retired from those jobs with the full respect and admiration of his colleagues.

 

Strengthening Relationships

“People may take a job for more money, but they often leave it for more recognition.” – Bob Nelson

Expressing gratitude for what people do has always been taken for granted, but you can never deny the good it does to any relationship. From personal to professional connections, consistent expression of your appreciation to the other person contributes significantly to his happiness in your relationship.

Many teenagers start to rebel against their families when they feel neglected and believe that their efforts aren’t appreciated. Countless infidelities also happen, most of the time, when a spouse feels taken for granted. And as Bob Nelson’s quote above signifies, many employees look for new jobs not because they’ve got an unsatisfactory compensation package. Often it’s because their workplace needs a little more gratitude culture.

 

Overcoming Fear

“Hopeful thinking can get you out of your fear zone and into your appreciation zone.” – Martha Beck

I think gratitude and fear can’t exist together. It’s either you let your fear overcome you or you let gratitude take over.

A new opportunity often gives you this feeling of anxiety about the unknown. When you get a job assignment that requires you to relocate, you get these worries about fitting in a new environment. You may even get stressed about packing up your stuff and transferring to a new home.

But things could be a lot better if you embrace the opportunity with a little more thankfulness than worry. You could at least be thankful for the new friends you’ll have and the challenges that will make you stronger.

 

Staying Humble

“Pride slays thanksgiving, but a humble mind is the soil out of which thanks naturally grow. A proud man is seldom a grateful man, for he never thinks he gets as much as he deserves.” – Henry Ward Beecher

I think that someone who believes that he’s high above all other beings can’t be truly grateful. How can he be? All he thinks about is what he can get.

When you’ve got that air of arrogance, you can’t appreciate the goodness of other people. All you can see is what you do and what you want. You even tend to put down other people just to make sure that you’re the one who stays on top of the game.

If you’re a humble man, however, you always know your place. You know what you’ve got and accept your limitations. You can also recognize what other people can do and be truly happy with it.

 

I know everything’s always easier said than done. And having a grateful attitude everyday isn’t an exception. It always is a difficult task, especially with all the stressful situations around us. It’s so easy to give in to the pressures of the world, stay critical and worrisome, and blame it on someone or something else. But we can always make a choice.

What I’ve mentioned here are just some of the “gifts” you can experience when you focus on gratitude. And there are many other amazing things you can expect from it. I’m sure you’ve got your own insights and experiences about the power of gratitude in your life. Care to share your thoughts?

 

Humility, Gratitude, and Swagger – How They All Fit Together

 

How does humility fit in with swagger?”

It’s a question that caught my attention when I was browsing the Net. It’s actually the title of an article by Jim Murphy. From what I’ve read on his site Inner Excellence, he’s a sportsman who’s now authored personal development books and committed himself to inspiring people to be the best they can be.

I usually come across the word “swagger” when the subject is a popular person, usually a celebrity or someone who’s idolized. They usually have that certain charm that makes them irresistible. Admit it or not, many of us often wonder how we can have that.

In his article, Murphy said, “Don’t confuse swagger with pride. Swagger is the confidence that you can connect with the powerful energy of passion, purpose, and poise. Pride is, in our discussion, the false bravado that comes when the ego says, ‘look at me.’”

And he has a point there. The article is just a brief one, but it has some statements that can create a certain spark in your soul and spirit. Read the whole piece through this link - How does humility fit in with swagger? I’m sure it’ll help boost your confidence today.

Appreciation and Motivation

 

Being appreciative isn’t only important in your personal relationships. When working in teams – like in the workplace, sports teams, and other organizations – it is an attitude that can help you reach your goals.

If you’re wondering what makes high-performing teams and what keeps them on top, one of their common secrets is appreciation. Pointing out the good things that each member does may be a trivial thing for many people, but this basic practice that’s often forgotten has the power to give that extra fuel that every team needs to win.

Wondering how you can do this? Some tips that you can easily follow are featured on Why Appreciation Matters So Much.