I’ve mentioned in the previous blog entry some of the relationship questions to ask when things aren’t going well. Let’s go to the brighter side of the spectrum of a love relationship this time.
What if you’re working towards becoming more intimate with a person you’ve been seeing? And it doesn’t only mean physical intimacy, but really getting to know this person in all aspects of life. Regardless of how long you’ve known each other, there are oftentimes interesting things that you still don’t know about the other person – interesting things that may be significant information as your relationship progresses.
One of the ways you can develop a more intimate relationship is to play a game. Yes, you got that right. But it’s a game where you ask questions to get to know each other better. No hard and fast rules here except to truthfully answer the questions.
You can make it into a crazy dating game between you and your partner. Or, you can just shoot the questions straight at each other. You can make it into a written quiz or you can just ask each other verbally.
I’ve met my husband almost 11 years ago and we’ve been married for 7 years now. I’m still amazed at the things we discover about each other’s thoughts, influences, and past experiences. Some of the questions here we’ve already asked each other. The others, we haven’t yet. Which reminds me… maybe we could start with some of them tonight after dinner.
Remember, no definite rules here. You can add more questions, as many as you want. You can even bring out a couple of drinks and enjoy answering these questions.
Childhood and Unforgettable Memories
What were your hobbies when you were a kid?
What was your childhood ambition?
Who was the first person who died in your life? How did you feel about it?
Was there a movie that made you cry? Which one?
How old were you the first time you thought you were in love?
What’s the most embarrassing thing you’ve ever done in your life?
What’s the funniest thing you’ve ever done in your life?
Who‘s the person you admire the most?
Who helped you figure out how to ask someone out on your first date?
What is the best relationship advice someone has ever given you?
What were our first words to one another?
What was your first impression of me?
What’s your favorite memory of me?
What’s your favorite way of spending time with me?
The first time I asked you out, did it cross your mind to refuse my invitation?/Have you had second thoughts about asking me out the first time?
Right before we kissed the first time, what were you thinking?
How do you describe me to other people?
Fantasies and Secret Wishes
If you’ve got only one day to live, how would you like to spend it?
If you could have 3 wishes, what would they be?
Assuming you can afford anything, what would be the most important for you to accomplish?
If you were to give money to charity, which organization would you choose? Why?
If you could relive any one day from your childhood, which day would it be?
If you were to give yourself a nickname, what would it be?
If you were to give me a nickname, what would it be?
Which celebrity do you fantasize about?
If our life story will be made into a movie, what genre would it be? Who’ll play your part and mine?
Be prepared that your partner may not want to participate at first. But encourage him or her that the more you know about each other, the better you’ll understand the other person’s needs and desires –driving you to a better, more intimate relationship.
“It is not time or opportunity that is to determine intimacy;—it is disposition alone. Seven years would be insufficient to make some people acquainted with each other, and seven days are more than enough for others.” ― Jane Austen, Sense and Sensibility