Maybe people whoâ€™ve known me since I was a kid would be shocked that Iâ€™m all of a sudden writing about being happy. As Iâ€™ve mentioned in one of my previous articles, I may have been one of the grumpiest girls one could ever meet. But not anymore.
So what happened? I actually donâ€™t know. Perhaps itâ€™s age. I might have realized at a certain point in my life that Iâ€™m not immortal. Or maybe itâ€™s a series of events in my adult life. I really canâ€™t pinpoint anything.
I think whatâ€™s more important is that I have decided to have an attitude of being more positive and happier. But itâ€™s never been easy.
Here are some of my realizations that I hope can help you decide to have an attitude of happiness.
Itâ€™s all up to you.
Iâ€™ve read in books and magazines that attitudes and mindsets are, for the most part, shaped by everything and everyone around you â€“ even from the time that youâ€™ve been conceived in your motherâ€™s womb.
From my experience, I think they can really influence you a lot. And even when youâ€™re doing your best to stay positive and be happy, situations and people will bring you down, whether intentionally or not.
But hereâ€™s another important thing Iâ€™ve learned from events in my life: itâ€™s always up to me if Iâ€™ll let them affect me negatively or positively.
Itâ€™s always been a challenge, though. Itâ€™s often so much easier to sulk, pity myself, or be spiteful of other people. But I know it will just bury me deeper into the dark pit. So when the obstacles come around, I push myself to choose happiness and positivity.
Stick with the positive.
Donâ€™t despair, though. Not everything and everyone around you give off negative vibes. Youâ€™ll also find things that can promote a positive attitude â€“ celebrations, successes, books, movies, arts and crafts, sports, etc.
There are a lot of them around you. You just have to choose what you think will work best for you.
Surrounding yourself with positive company is also important. Nobodyâ€™s perfect, but there are people who can give you that added encouragement to become a happier person.
A word of caution, though: itâ€™s still you who have to do the work. Others should be there just to support you. And there are times that they’d need you to support them, too.
And Iâ€™m not saying that you should forget about all your friends who are followers of some pessimistic movement. Just make sure that they donâ€™t bring you down. In fact, why not try to help bring them up to a more positive light with you?
Reap the fruits of your hard work.
After all your efforts done to stay positive and happy, donâ€™t forget to reap the fruits of your labor. Life will seem to be easier. Well, most probably, it really wonâ€™t be. But because you have a much better disposition in life, youâ€™ll feel that more than ever, you can face whateverâ€™s thrown at you. Donâ€™t deny yourself the enjoyment of having this great attitude of happiness. Smile. Laugh. Sleep well. Wake up thankful for every day of your life.
One last thing â€“ remember to share your happiness together with the other gifts given you. Itâ€™s part of enjoying a positive attitude. And this is the major reason why Iâ€™m writing a whole series on happiness and positivity on this blog.
â€œIt is not how much we have, but how much we enjoy, that makes happiness.â€
â€“ Charles Spurgeon