I can relate in to your friend problem. I kept thinking of something and someone I don’t want to think mostly at bed times. It gives me hard times in sleeping. Thanks for the tips. Hope it can help.
Thank you and keep it up

Wow, this was a really well done post and it couldn’t have come at a better time for me. I’m in the middle of a divorce and am dealing with some personal situations all around. Reading something like this was an inspiration and a pick me up. Thank you.

I’m impatient with myself and so want to feel better NOW, by doing this I overlooked that actually, it is ok to feel hurt!

Acceptance of the situation has been difficult, I always thought I was stronger than the emotions I was feeling and so fought them – trying to convince myself that I was ok… of course this tactic didn’t work very well.

So in taking your advice, I decided to disconnect from this story and I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders – and an added bonus – I’m not so angry with myself for not being over this – it’s ok to feel hurt over a breakup, it’s not ok to make that hurt the excuse for not moving forward…

Thanks Glen! I owe you one…

Glen,

Very true, “you are what you think about all day long” I have experimented with your philosophy many times and it works every time! the wonderful thing abut the strange human being is that we have free will to choose. You choose your own thoughts. I wonder if anyone can present an argument against that?

Great stuff Glen! Finally… Truth about the inner conflicts which affect so many people, my partner included! I tell him to leave the past behind and live fully in the present, but he seems to prefer being the victim of his younger years. Instead of accepting the ‘problems’ he’s suffered in the past and using the knowledge gained from the experiences to give him a greater appreciation of his life currently, he remains focused on the pain and insecurities of previous years.
When we talk about the past, I remind him that we ALL have experiences which may not have been the best at the time, however, having gone through these experiences and over-come them, life is much sweeter. The past has shaped us into who we are today and we have the choice to embrace that or continue to be a victim.
Thanks for explaining this so clearly and concisely; my hope is that I can steer my partner away from his past and into a bright and shiny present!

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Nameste!

Nicely written and deep sooooo easier said than done! lol

Glen:

You’ve done it again – another great writing. You are so right in how people do identify themselves with their problems and issues. We’ve all done it at one time or another. Trick is to not do it for too long. However, I don’t believe that this identifies who they are; anymore than identifying yourself or someone else by their paycheck (its amount). I’ve seen this many, many times over. And so it goes that; life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% is how you react to it. This is your attitude towards it. This is what you are in charge of. It is a choice.

I really like your writing style. Keep up the good work.

Hi Glen,

I read your previous post about selling and buying this site back, and I guess when I first found it, it wasn’t yours and I didn’t come back very much. It sure feels different now.

Great post, especially about disconnecting from your story, and perhaps re-writing your story exactly how you want it to happen next time? I’m starting to believe in this Law of Attraction stuff.

Have subscribed to your feed and am off to Stumble this post now. Look forward to more posts from you!

Daphne

Great post Glen – I especially love how you make it clear that people are responsible for the choices they make.

No one can completely control external situations, but we can control our reactions to them and in so doing control our future actions and attitudes – and it’s all done through choice.

Wow tank you so much, that really helped me alot ive been trying to forget about this girl who i just let pretty much walk all over me and we have gotten in numerous fights and i have been heart broken about it and trying to fix it but i just cant accept that we can never make it work. And i just wont let go but the thing is that she is a B*&@h to me but always ends up wanting me back but i cant let go and accept it and this really helped me forget and accept that it wont work out and we are two completely different people. thank you thank you!

-conor
btw im 16 yrs old hahaha

thank you so muuch you are amazing it was right in front of my face the whole time!!

Hi,
One of the things I teach clients is something I learned years ago. I don’t remember who the author is but it goes like this:

I bless you
I release you
I set you free
I allow you to be you
And me to be me!

Keep repeating every time your thoughts go on this person.
Great blog post.
Tess

Glennie this is probably the greatest advice anyone has ever given me, i felt so much lighter after reading it. I’m gonna take this in2 account every time I’m faced with a difficulty. Thanks again xxxx

i listen to music to get stuff off my mind

I met a person 2 years ago when was a security officer. one night i was making my rounds and our paths crossed my mind got messed up
the last time i saw this person my soul have not been the same since.
i can not get this person off my mind. this person today is over seas.
tears fall from my eyes when i think about this person. tell how can i get this!!

This site is amazing. Do you do or would you consider doing motivational speaking?

What is the mentality u have everyday ?

Lately I’ve been cleaning up and “disconnecting” from my story. I realized that it takes more energy to be negative and make excuses for everything that I cannot do or be. Nowadays I feel more at peace. Stumbling onto this post reaffirmed that I am on the right track. Great post Glen!

I really loved this post. It made me wake up about something. How can I share it on twitter?? I just put the link to this page right?

Hey Carolina,

The last sentence in the post has a link to twitter, if that doesn’t work try clicking here

I am so glad I found this link. It makes so much sense, why didn’t I think of this before, lol. Oh I know I was bugged…hoping to be bug free soon…:)

Great help.

Awesome post – great advice! Will be sharing

Hi Glen,

Thank you so much for this. I have so many regrets about college that I keep replaying over in my mind–why didn’t I take computer science classes earlier, why did I pick summer jobs I hated? It’s only compounded by the fact that my boyfriend is amazingly brilliant and confident, and loves his job.

But it’s a waste of energy regretting. I have to dive boldly into new projects and see them through to gain confidence.

I like who I am now, I just wish I had gotten here sooner. But I’ll try to remember what a football coach said,
“We aren’t where we could be,
We aren’t where we ought to be,
But thank God we aren’t where we used to be.”

You’re so wise for your age. I wish you the best of luck in the future!

Glen,

You sir are wise beyond your years. Thanks very much for this post, sometimes we seem to like to wallow in our own problems/issues, and we need a fresh insight to break the funk. Your funk-breaking techniques aren’t only good for the initial circumstance that brought us to this post, but rather a great long term solution for coping with issues as they arise. You stay classy Glen, keep up your GREAT work!

Ben
Wisconsin

I am really happy because you have posted this. It is exactly what i needed to read and it is simply Perfect. It really works indeed and it’s good to read it carefully and as you read it to say it to yourself , like “you are fighting with yourself” and YEP that it is , i should stop that .

Hope you get what i meant.

This article is really really good.

It doesn’t help me one bit, but it’s good.

See, I am 17, and there’s this chick who I have been loose friends with for a couple years now, but whom recently I have grown very, very fond of. Unfortunately for me, I am a little late on that train because my best friend was with her for a year or two and they lost their virginity to one another and my other very close friend has loved her since he was 14.
Well, her boyfriend went away to college at the end of the summer. Being my best friend, he told me that while he would mind if other people got with her, he couldn’t care less if I did so. That being said, he and she are no longer committed to each other, and while he has taken that and ran, having had other partners multiple times already, she does not know this and is still in belief that she will stay good for him. So, in other words, while they are technically apart, the common trust between one another is that the other will not ‘cheat.’

Well, as I said, I recently have gotten to know her a lot better, and have already snuck over to her house a couple of times, though I have yet to spend the time there sexually and have thus far only spoken with her and cuddled. I really want her, very badly, and can’t get her off of my mind because I want to get with her…

Recently though, another friend of mine displayed a similar desire, and while she did not share it with him, it was discovered what his motives were and he was chewed out pretty soundly for betraying his friend who loves her and the ‘boyfriend’ as well, both of whom are friends with him.

So, although it is obvious she and I share mutual feelings of, if nothing else, lust, but I am hesitant to act upon them based on what the friend who loves her might think, say, do, and feel toward me after, not to mention how the friend who tried to get with her but was chewed out might feel toward me.

I would rather not lose a good friend, betray a good friend if you can consider it that, because then my other friends might feel I would do the same to them. Also, I am certain she would tell my best friend (her ‘boyfriend’) and I am not so sure I want that.

Anyways, I can’t get her nor the situation out of my head…I know I can either bull through it and just get with her and deal with the consequences or accept that this is how it always will be, but I’d rather have another path…any help/ideas/thoughts???

Hey Glen,

Your race, nationality, relationships, social situation, family, and income level are not you. Only YOU are you.

Do you want to be truly free? Don’t let external forces define you. Make a conscious effort to start disassociating with labels that were forced on by others (and yourself). Bad relationships, poverty, racism, sexism, negative energy… all those are just things floating around are you. But they’re not you.

You are whoever you want to be. You’re truly free if you don’t let anything control you. Your mind is the most powerful tool you have, and no one can control it. Literally. It’s physically impossible. So don’t let others psychologically control it.

Great article. Succinct reminder to focus on being ourselves and not labels,
Oleg

Hey, my problem has worked itself out, I ended up going behind everyone’s back and getting with that girl. So far so good.

Still a great article.

This thing doesn’t get what i want out of my head OUT OF MY HEAD!
Fine then I’ll try Meditating hehe
i don’t even know how to do that!
Please does anyone else have a website that knows how to get something out of my head! please

I saw A Penis going into A 11 year old bum and she was screaming !
and i want to get that out of my head but i can’t tell the police
Because i have no proof.
and none of my friends believe me!
Thanks anyway bye

this was very helpful in my current situation this whole post just gave me a new outlook on lifes faults

Wow, simply briliant work on this. I know its just thoughts that u feel but damn it really helped me and reading the comments helped too realizing that my story isn’t as bad as it could be. Thanks a lot. Very ggreat work..first time I’ve actually responed to anything like this aswell. Thanks again.

Thanks this helped my cousin lives in california and we see each other twice a year. Sometimes we just have to accept some things in life.

P.S.He”s coming tonight i”m so excited>

Interesting article… and quite informative actually. I can attest to getting bogged down a a fair number of times myself due to mental battles, and at the end of the day all the worrying and stressing doesn’t do me an ounce of good.

@Claire

I think your post is old but I’ll reply anyway:

People tend to become attached to relationships that evoke feelings they are familiar with since childhood. For example, if you are accustomed to walking on eggshells from the way your parents raised you, you will become easily attached to someone who you feel that way with. To better understand this, look up “Neurosis” and look for info about how we try to recreate familiar patterns in relationships.

Good Luck.

I hope this does help. I have been thinking about something and someone, but they`re still not getting off of my mind. There`s this problem involving someone that likes me and I like them. The problem is I don`t want to like him and it`s hard to. My problem is a little different form others`. Thanks for the advice.

Wow, this was well thought out I am going through some problems personally and I am also in school and can’t seem to get this personal stuff off my mind. I know it seems as easy as you say but really I hope these tips work because I’m also starting to feel real depressed right now.Well thanks again

the best way to be free from thoughts is to do something that would capture your time

Hi Glen, good article. It definitely made me think about my ‘problem’ . I am trying to get over someone and this really helped me in a small way.

Thanks,

Shourya

I want to get a really good friend off my mind.. I adore her and love her but we can never be together because she is engaged and has a baby.. but she seems to young to be making these decisions at her age.. in my mind, i have hope that maybe me and her might have a chance. so i choose not to let go of her.. But then it is a high possibly that its only me hoping for things. and then if i do move on.. i feel like i gave up.

Tess, Thanks for the advice! I’m recently seperated from my husband and what I wanted to be a friendly, civil, seperation and divorce has turned ugly because of a third party, (the woman he left me for but I wasn’t aware at the time). Even after finding out about her, it bothered me; however, not to the point of driving me crazy. The thing that started making me crazy is that when I really needed to communicate with my estranged husband about joint business, etc., this woman started controlling him and wouldn’t allow him to even talk to me! He has consented to submit to this woman’s control. That’s what started making me obsess over it and it got to the point where I couldn’t shake it off my mind. But I have to tell you that the minute I read your comment and started repeating those 5 simple sentences, I found it was really helping. It got me to start thinking that I can’t control his actions towards me, how he acts in general or anything else, that I can only control what I do, say or think! It’s also positive which is needed. Thank you for caring enough to share!
Jaymer

Thankyou for this.. & sometimes when you think about the same person over & over & you try to resist it, you usually find yourself trying to compare other ppl that you come up with in your mind that are not as impacting. Accepting it seems to work. I just have to let words & past go. Forgive & forget. I don’t know why i took it so personally.. I guess it was because this happened in a church setting & usually you think you’d find nice ppl in church but not always i guess we are all human.

Are you from a Christian source or background by the way??

Thank you, that was very helpfull. However, my situation is kind of unique. I am 17 years old. Prior to my problem, I was very popular and was not aware of emotions, awkwardness, shyness, cowardness, sensativity, being dumb, and ect.. I was just living my life as a care-free teenager that was enjoying himself. My problem presented itself when I was made fun of for something I did at school and it lasted for about 2 weeks. Then I was exposed to reality and how it felt like to be allienated from the rest of my peers. I feared that the new changes were going to stay in my personality and myself for forever, so I started to constantly think about my problem for almost a year now. The problem delayed my ability to play soccer, school, rapping, socializing, and many more hobbies of mine. Fortunately, I had a good talk with one of my Uncles and he explained to me that that is not me. It was just the first time I was exposed to the human mind. I felt a lot better and then I went back to the same person I used to be before the problem. However, since I had been thinking about it for almost a year and constantly feeling “high” because I always felt confused and anxious, I thought I had Depersonalization Dissorder, which is a dissorder were you feel lost in your mind, confused and high all the time, like you are living a movie. But now I know that I dont have the dissorder, it is just that I am constantly thinking that i do have the dissorder. I am trying to get this off my mind so that I can go back to normal. Please help me..

Thank you,
Josh

Amenn!!!!!!!!!!! That’s right!

Dear Glen,
I loved your advice, but after taking a minute to think about it I came to the conclusion that I was already practicing it all along. I came at peace with the fact that my breakup with my (still current)wife of 10 years & mother of my 2 children is hurting & will hurt for a while. I knew I wouldn’t allow this to neither change me as a being nor determine my future. However it has been over a year & a half & I find her in my thoughts more often than anything else going on in my life as important as it may be. Allow me to explain that her & my brother (also my room mate) are very good friends, as if it weren’t bad enough we have kids together. She’s in my house damn near every day. Sometimes we co-exist, sometimes we fight. In my opinion, we should never have to be in the same room together ever again unless its extremely important, because I still have strong feelings for her although I am aware of what the reality is. This issue haunts my dreams & my reality even more. I love her, I’m sure that will never change & I’m ok with that because I know I can’t allow my feelings to represent who I really am, so I never doubted nor denied that. ….Where do I stand right now? Where do I go from here?

“you choose your own thoughts”.

I don’t know about this. It’s something I’ve done a LOT of thinking about. It’s a nice IDEA that we choose out own thoughts and that we have control over what happens in our lives. But is that really just a way of making us feel better? I suspect that in reality, thoughts just happen. It all just happens. WHO is choosing? WHERE is the I that is choosing, really?

In meditation, we recognise that thoughts constantly come and go and “I” am really not responsible for them. But I have to admit that this seems disempowering (for the illusionary “I”)!

This was a really interesting way to look at problems that one can’t get off their mind. I have a slightly unusual one. I’m still in a relationship, so it’s not my boyfriend that I want to forget. However, there’s a guy at work that has started flirting with me, and upon realizing it (took me a while), I was startled, but then the flattery must have somehow gotten to me and I’ve felt the urge to flirt back. I don’t want that. I just want to get this other guy off my mind. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and a half, and I love him, but we’ve been struggling for a while. I’d never do anything stupid with this other guy – I loathe cheating with a passion – but it’s become a problem. I feel guilty all the time because I enjoy the flirting (I don’t flirt back ever), but I shouldn’t. Is there anything I can really do to stop my mind from going into over-drive like this?

Glen,

It is all too true that “we” are not “our mistakes”. When we begin to differentiate between our mistakes as being something we “do” instead of something we “are”, great freedom comes.

So many people, myself included in the past, have been bogged down by believing that our failures and problems, “make us”.

I’m glad to see you are, like our site, trying to help people to realize this truth. Great stuff Glen.

Keep it coming!

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Your smart!

Hi there – great blog and great post. Just reading your Cloud Living ebook and couldn’t believe it when you mentioned Lea Woodward – I coached her just before she and Jonathan made the break and moved abroad. She’s amazing!

I’ve been struggling with just this topic for the last year, I lost my business, the love of my life, my house, my kids, everthing, very suddenly. Long story.

It’s been a long painful year but I just read a great book called “How To Let Go & Move On” by Joff Day – he’s a really nice person, met him at a workshop of someone I like and respect. He sent me a copy of the book.

Joff is an experienced relationship counsellor and so the book is written from that experience and it really helped me.

Basically, if you can’t let go of someone it’s because you feel they owe you still, and in the book, Joff gives several simple practical ways to get over that.

Hint: It’s linked to the victim mentality that you talk about so well in this blog post.

No affiliate links – the book just helped me.

Warm regards
Nicola

WOW im only a 15 year old and im going threw alot now=/.While I was reading this,it inspired me to move on from some of my problems.I really feel so much beter reading this.

THANK YOU,KEEP IT COMING!

I read this hole thing and i still have a problem… I tried just accepting what the problem was and accepting the thoughts that came in my head…But I don’t want to just accept them… I want to get this girl completely out of my head…because I can accept her all i want…but she is still their…

i feel exactly the same.but my problem is i cant say it to anyone that my heart is broken…..and someway i blame myself for it……… feel i am loosing it slowly……i cant sleep at night……..and i have to pretend that am fine…………..and am fine when people are around me……..when i am alone,,,,,,,,,,,i just cant stop thinking about me……..and the feeling is killing me……i cant go back to him as he thinks i cheated him……………i dnt know Wat to do? where should i go?……….i cant stop my tears whenever i think of him………i miss him so much and the most difficult part is to keep my emotion in control whn he is around ………..i try so hard that i end up hurting him over and over again,and behave as if am a cold girl……..i going crazzzzyyyyyyyyyyy…….do i need help………i have decided to leave my work and join some other company……….coz i think if i cant give him any happiness and if my presence spoils his life……then i have no right to do so………..he deserve much better in this life….as it is he has suffered so much………the last things he needs is more pain from me………..i just pray to god that is finds happiness.

i cant get the devil and evil stuff off my mind, after wathcing paranormal activity, im scared everywhere i go, im scared.

I RECENTLY GOT OUT OF A RELATIONSHIP.IT HURTS ME SO BAD I JUST CANT FORGET ABOUT HIM.. HE JUST BREAKS MY HEART…I MEAN IT HAS BEEN 3 YEARS AND I AM STILL MISSING HIM. THIS GAVE ME SOME GOOD ADVICE TO HELP ME OUT WITH MY LIFE.. ITS HARD FOR ME TO UNDERSTAND MY LIFE SITUATIONS AND BY READING THIS.IT HAS HELPED ME SOME WHAT AND IT DOES MAKE ALOT OF SINCE.

WoW thats helpful. because im leaving my old school and my girlfriends is there. my parents say their will be other girls and theirs a big world out there. but this makes it easier to understand. thanks for the tip

My life revolve around my ex-girlfriend.I can’t lie as of this Chrismas day I still think about her.We have to deal with each other for the rest of our lives. We have two beatiful children together.I do understand why we broke for the first time.My actions out weighed hers faults.We ‘ve been separated going on two years and we attend a couple events with our kids and do flavors for each other,I’ve known this whole time we spended together, I relize and edknownledge were not in a relationship but we fool around a couple of times.And she step to me on her own free will with a reltionship.And I choke up thinking we could never be. At my age 29 I’m back in school, working with fair pay,and seem to get attention some very beatiful women.Now these day I really don’t want a relationship with no one.I trully do want to settle down and make my furture plans with someone,but she is always on my mind.I do need to b guided out of my story.

Okay, so, I get it. I hate my childhood, it was totally screwed up, both by me and by kids around me who pushed me away just for who I was, by my broken family and so on, and so on. You state I should disconnect myself from my past so that i can move on and become successful–okay. But then I realized I don’t want to be disconnected with my past, after all it’s part of me and it made me who I am now. Can I still achieve success without getting rid of ME?

I think this is the most idiotic thing I have ever read. Being blissed out and pretending that issues aren’t bothering you isn’t going to make them better – it just makes you an idiot.

I just wrote something about this before finding this article! True wisdom. I shudder to think of my life before I found Eckhart and learned how to just accept what is!

I just keep thinkn abt him everyday every nite it really happen during the nite bcus I sleep during the day. Im up until like 4. I find myself textin his brother just to hear tha fact we will b bk together how is dat when I really want to let him go

When my ex and i got together, this was something that happened long ago at a distance. He liked me, but I had no clue who he was. However, when we got together, I liked him a lot. I would go to him and hold him, kiss his forehead and just do things to make him laugh. At the time him and I were drinkers, mostly beer. Then he got caught driving while drinking, got locked up had to start going to meetings and the bottome fell out of everything I thought we could have. I have cried many nights, because for once this is one man that made me laugh. I was over there with him this weekend, and he stayed far away from me like I was the plague. A month before that day, he did not want me to touch him. l have decided that what I dealt with in 2010 I refuse to bring into 2011. I have accepted his many problems has caused him to isolate himself from life, and I refuse to do that. I say to my past lover rest in the past, because eventually you will realize there is nothing there but death and mayhem. It robs you of you laughter, your joy and your happiness. I have accepted that I am not what you want, because you cannot drink, but my advice to you is this, don’t know at the door of my heart when you start drinking again, because i am not drinking, smoking or crying any longer. Peace ~The Writer

Love it! Really inspiring me in this moment of my life. I think as you do and I wanna try this “you’re not your story”!

Thank you very much, keep on with this job!

Silvia, from Italy

Hiya Glen,
i cant get this problem off of my mind ive done something wrong and i dont want to tell any one about it.I alwaya think about it when im in bed trying to get to sleep and it takes about half an hour.I need your advice what can i consentrate on doing to get it off my mind ? please help!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you very much
Jessica

this is amazingly written. helps a lot thank you

Hi Glen, last month, some Bishop from this Episcopal church visited the church that I attended. But I notice that for some reason, he kept starring at me as if he knew me from somewhere but, I didnt have a clue of who he was though. Later after the church program he supposedly gave me a prophesy and started explaining how the last four years has been nothing but pure hell for him. so,then he offered me his phone number and thats when I called him later on that night to thank him for the words of inspiration and when I did that, he told me to call him “Friend” instead of “Bishop”! Right then and there I felt that something didnt sit right with me, but I shook it off and that’s when he started sending me very sexual text messages to my phone ALL NIGHT!! That next morning i texted him back letting him know that I don’t engage in those type of activities and he replied mback saying that he knew that. but soon after I felt as if someone betrayed my trust and kindness for weakness and from late January to now, I can’t get his face out of my mind ugggh!! Please help me Glen! and yes I am a young man by the way.

I know this was written a long while back but I need help getting thoughts of someone out of my mind!!

This is a great article. Very positive and practical. I’ll be forwarding it via FACEBOOK.

I lost my phone in bag ( with many other things) at school!

I CANNOT GET THIS OFF MY MIND!

ITS BEEN BUGIN ME FOREVER!!!!!!!! EVERYTIME I see someone ON THER PHONE I GET SAD AND THINK “Why did I have to lose my phone!”

i have so much drama going on at school and it is hard to get it off my mind. i fell like there is nothing else in the world but this drama. i want to know what i can do get this off my mind.

hey this really helped me, i was just wondering if i should try to avoided things that would remind me of the problem? like pictures

hope this works with thoughts of the apocalypse.. these thoughts just recently started to bug me and i have no idea on how to get rid of them. like i said before, hope this works.

Iv been having trouble with my past and I’m only 12 and you have really helped me understand thank you sooo much I feel alot better and I will finally be able to be happy again and move on and accept that what happened happened

i have a fear of dying or getting out of the great life i have now. to me this is no laughing matter and i take my life seriously.it feels great to tell someone about this as i have never told anyone before. im a 11 yr old boy and i wish that i could get this of of my mind. every where i go this problem just keeps coming back. the one thing that makes me forget about it is my family. they love me no matter what and that always seems to take my problems away. this post made me think about whatts going on and im glad i realize what i should do.

Thankyou sooooooooo much !!!!!!!!!!

This is the worst advice I’ve ever read on this subject.

hi..
thank you for that i really much realized such things right now..
now i know how to overcome with my feelings regarding about such guy..
i trully much appreciate your story and your right not all of the people who have a great grades in college could be truly succeed in their lives coz our life depends on how we use it…
i am so much expect that you will continue to inspire such unknowledgeable person like me…
thanks a lot!
(^_^)

Hi Glen, I have a problem on my mind that i have done in the last 3 days. I would rather not say what it is on this post. I get what your saying about you have to let yourself think about it to except it and to just get on with life. I would like if you could comment back so you could help me through this.

Thank you.

Oh my jeebiz!!
Yknow, maybe I can try doing this about my homesickness… I miss my old friends from my old school so bad that I even dream about seeing them almost every night, last night included.
I don’t wanna forget about my friends or the good times we had, but I’m always miserable thinking about them and worrying about if they’re haviing fun without me… Of course I want them to be happy but not without me!!
And my parents say we can visit one day, but I have the feeling they’re lying. I think they don’t like me…. And I want to forget that too! Because I’m the result of a marriage that ended badly and my all my parents hate eachother. And now I have little half siblings and they all kinda carry on like they don’t want me around because I’m just a reminder of that….
Sorry for annoying you and stuff but I’m 16 and no one seems to care but my half brother from my dad’s first marriage and my best friend and they shouldn’t have to listen anymore…

Hii glen…ur post is amazing …i jus hope that it works on me..
My problem is that my results were out recently….was shocked to see that i failed…i just cant get over this failing thing…every time i try to study, it distracts me like hell and depresses me…apart from that Der is this girl who is always on my mind n i just cant get rid of her…she passed n went ahead where as i failed and now am 6 months back.we wont be classmates any more…i don’t knw whether its love or its just a attachment but its very hard 2 get her out…every time i try to study both these problems play a vital role in jus closing my books n thinking about my bad luck…i just don’t know what to do…my exams are also coming up very soon.
I just hope that ur post helps me out…
Thank you…

Ok so about 2 years ago my live in boyfriend of 3 years ended our relationship because he ” couldn’t get over his dead EX wife. For the past 1 1/2 years we have been having a ” friends with benefits” relationship. I know this is not healthy and keep saying I’m done but all it takes is a text or phone call from him and I am back at square one. I can’t completely avoid him because we live in a very small town

There’s a boy that I like a lot, although he’s a year older than me. He’s short for his age but then again so am I. He’s been eyeing me lately and hinting me slightly, even though we both know he’s seeing another girl at the moment. He knows I like him, at least I think he knows, and I wouldn’t date him but I would hook up and stuff with him occasionally. But lately I’ve been trying to ignore his stare because I really like this boy who’s my age, and I actually want to start a relationship with him. But I can never get my mind off the first boy, that I’ve liked for two years. I try not to look at him at school but I can’t help it when I see him looking at me. I really want to get my mind off him and I tried this but its not working for the soul reason that he’s not an object and I currently like him, he’s not from my past. I’ve tried everything I can but everyday I look for him in the school yard and when I see him I’ll smile and giggle to myself when others aren’t looking. Anyway I just wanted to vent out my feelings. Kbye. Also I’m 14

Hey Glen!
I am really glad I came across your post. I have a problem that has been rolling around in my head for over 12 years now. I have had a crush on this guy since middle school, and I have never told him. I am currently married to my husband of 6 years, and we have a 2 yr old little boy together. Although I love my husband, I am not in love with him. The guy that I have had this crush on for forever is married and has two children. He doesn’t even know that I have this obsession with him, and here lately, he is all that I think about. My ten year high school reunion is next year, and all I can think about is telling my ‘crush’ how I feel about him. I don’t want to ruin his relationship with his wife, but I just want him to know how I feel. I need to get this off of my chest, and just to see if he ever felt the same way. What should I do? I need answers. I don’t want to ruin anyone’s life in the process of getting this off my chest.Please help.

damn, do you know me?
cause those examples describes my situation pretty well
I’m just kidding, but those examples do resemble my life a lot and this article should help me through my problems that I thought were gone away, but I realized it is still there because I am doing all my best to evolve and change into the loving being I see myself as, but childhood memories and past relationships keep me from achieving so and i’m absolutely frightened, and my biggest fear is that I am going to be let down again because I have been let down,pretty much, majority of my life, by people, and have finally found the courage within myself to pull me through, but there’s this thing that I want that I am not allowing myself to have because I look at the future and all I see is the letdowns and the dumb stuff I have always had to deal with cause it’s all I know, and all I have ever known, and it scares me, it really does, and i don’t want to be the victim anymore, but my past experiences keep haunting me, but I think it’s time for me to be not attached to them anymore, cause in the end I’m really just hurting myself, and my mentality and all that I have learned to becoming this evolving person I am today seems to mean nothing if I keep letting my past take over…

and this is long, and I have never expressed this much before…but hey it’s the internet, we don’t know each other so it’s all good

I am not going to write a long comment so many others have all ready, so I am just going to say,

Well done

Yes. Thats what I mean young sir.