Comments on: How to Get Someone or Something, Off Your Mind

By: Ben

Ben — Wed, 08 Sep 2010 12:55:34 +0000

“you choose your own thoughts”.

I don’t know about this. It’s something I’ve done a LOT of thinking about. It’s a nice IDEA that we choose out own thoughts and that we have control over what happens in our lives. But is that really just a way of making us feel better? I suspect that in reality, thoughts just happen. It all just happens. WHO is choosing? WHERE is the I that is choosing, really?

In meditation, we recognise that thoughts constantly come and go and “I” am really not responsible for them. But I have to admit that this seems disempowering (for the illusionary “I”)!

By: Efrain Rodriguez

Efrain Rodriguez — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 16:55:55 +0000

Dear Glen,
I loved your advice, but after taking a minute to think about it I came to the conclusion that I was already practicing it all along. I came at peace with the fact that my breakup with my (still current)wife of 10 years & mother of my 2 children is hurting & will hurt for a while. I knew I wouldn’t allow this to neither change me as a being nor determine my future. However it has been over a year & a half & I find her in my thoughts more often than anything else going on in my life as important as it may be. Allow me to explain that her & my brother (also my room mate) are very good friends, as if it weren’t bad enough we have kids together. She’s in my house damn near every day. Sometimes we co-exist, sometimes we fight. In my opinion, we should never have to be in the same room together ever again unless its extremely important, because I still have strong feelings for her although I am aware of what the reality is. This issue haunts my dreams & my reality even more. I love her, I’m sure that will never change & I’m ok with that because I know I can’t allow my feelings to represent who I really am, so I never doubted nor denied that. ….Where do I stand right now? Where do I go from here?

By: Natalie

Natalie — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 18:13:02 +0000

Amenn!!!!!!!!!!! That’s right!

By: Josh

Josh — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 20:10:11 +0000

Thank you, that was very helpfull. However, my situation is kind of unique. I am 17 years old. Prior to my problem, I was very popular and was not aware of emotions, awkwardness, shyness, cowardness, sensativity, being dumb, and ect.. I was just living my life as a care-free teenager that was enjoying himself. My problem presented itself when I was made fun of for something I did at school and it lasted for about 2 weeks. Then I was exposed to reality and how it felt like to be allienated from the rest of my peers. I feared that the new changes were going to stay in my personality and myself for forever, so I started to constantly think about my problem for almost a year now. The problem delayed my ability to play soccer, school, rapping, socializing, and many more hobbies of mine. Fortunately, I had a good talk with one of my Uncles and he explained to me that that is not me. It was just the first time I was exposed to the human mind. I felt a lot better and then I went back to the same person I used to be before the problem. However, since I had been thinking about it for almost a year and constantly feeling “high” because I always felt confused and anxious, I thought I had Depersonalization Dissorder, which is a dissorder were you feel lost in your mind, confused and high all the time, like you are living a movie. But now I know that I dont have the dissorder, it is just that I am constantly thinking that i do have the dissorder. I am trying to get this off my mind so that I can go back to normal. Please help me..

Thank you,
Josh

By: Natalie

Natalie — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 09:26:49 +0000

Thankyou for this.. & sometimes when you think about the same person over & over & you try to resist it, you usually find yourself trying to compare other ppl that you come up with in your mind that are not as impacting. Accepting it seems to work. I just have to let words & past go. Forgive & forget. I don’t know why i took it so personally.. I guess it was because this happened in a church setting & usually you think you’d find nice ppl in church but not always i guess we are all human.

Are you from a Christian source or background by the way??

By: Jaymer

Jaymer — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 08:02:54 +0000

Tess, Thanks for the advice! I’m recently seperated from my husband and what I wanted to be a friendly, civil, seperation and divorce has turned ugly because of a third party, (the woman he left me for but I wasn’t aware at the time). Even after finding out about her, it bothered me; however, not to the point of driving me crazy. The thing that started making me crazy is that when I really needed to communicate with my estranged husband about joint business, etc., this woman started controlling him and wouldn’t allow him to even talk to me! He has consented to submit to this woman’s control. That’s what started making me obsess over it and it got to the point where I couldn’t shake it off my mind. But I have to tell you that the minute I read your comment and started repeating those 5 simple sentences, I found it was really helping. It got me to start thinking that I can’t control his actions towards me, how he acts in general or anything else, that I can only control what I do, say or think! It’s also positive which is needed. Thank you for caring enough to share!
Jaymer

By: Jamal

Jamal — Tue, 11 May 2010 02:27:55 +0000

I want to get a really good friend off my mind.. I adore her and love her but we can never be together because she is engaged and has a baby.. but she seems to young to be making these decisions at her age.. in my mind, i have hope that maybe me and her might have a chance. so i choose not to let go of her.. But then it is a high possibly that its only me hoping for things. and then if i do move on.. i feel like i gave up.

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Life status « High's blog — Sun, 09 May 2010 09:52:29 +0000

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By: Shourya

Shourya — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 05:57:56 +0000

Hi Glen, good article. It definitely made me think about my ‘problem’ . I am trying to get over someone and this really helped me in a small way.

Thanks,

Shourya

By: grace

grace — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 13:24:08 +0000

the best way to be free from thoughts is to do something that would capture your time