I’ve been meaning to write this one for a long time but I’ve struggled to think how I can actually flesh this one out into a full blog post. The main premise is simple: whatever you would like to achieve, whatever you want in life, whoever you want to be: You Are Enough.
We go through life thinking that if we get X then we are going to be happy. If we make enough money or have a flashy enough car then we can attract a desirable partner into our lives. If we could just get this or do that then everything would be perfect. Well guess what? You don’t need anything.
Life Goals and Our Own Drawbacks
I’ve never discussed this on the blog but it’s something that’s been on my mind for a long time. One of my long-term goals with the PluginID brand is to release a book about the ‘ultimate solution’ to Plug into Your Identity, be who you want to be and live the life you want to live. I’ve found methods that work and methods that simply add to the clutter of our already hectic lives.
As part of this journey, I keep an Excel file which contains 3 columns which apply to me personally: Where I Was, Where I Am, Where I Want to Be. So for example, in regards to my career it might be:
- Where I Was: In a dead-end job that I hated (I worked in a clothes store)
- Where I Am: Working full-time from the comfort of my own home
- Where I Want to Be: Running a fully fledged business around the PluginID brand
The reason I say this is that this Excel document contains book and blog ideas, but also many of my life goals; goals that probably apply to most of you. Aspirations for relationships, health, and wealth. When looking at ‘Where I Am’ in regards to ‘Where I Want to Be’ I noticed some recurring drawbacks that aren’t created by anyone but me. I looked at them and always thought that I needed something else to happen for the ambition to occur.
For example, instead of wanting multiple (open and non-serious) relationships and going for that goal, I used to think: “OK so I’m going to focus on my business first so that I can make good money and buy a nice apartment and a car. Then, I’m going to work on my health so that I look better and it’s more likely that people will fall into my life“. Sorry, but it doesn’t work that way.
If you’re happy to wait years to achieve your goals that may or may not come true then that’s up to you. However, that’s not me. Right here, right now, I have everything I need to attract women into my life. In fact, in the past year I proved that to a large extent. This isn’t about me and my relationships though, this is about realising whatever you want in life you can have, right now. You are enough…
You Are Enough
Let’s put that statement to the test shall we. Below I’m going to outline some common goals that people have and some common beliefs around them and see if you relate to any of them.
False Belief No.1) I can’t have an attractive partner because I’m (any or all of the following may apply):
- Not attractive enough
- Don’t have enough money (common belief for men)
- Don’t have the right personality
False Belief No.2) I can’t life a live a life of financial abundance / become wealthy because:
- I’m not smart
- I don’t have the grades or qualifications needed
- I don’t know what I want to do in life
- That kind of thing doesn’t happen to people like me
False Belief No.3) I can’t live happily or be at peace because:
- I was brought up in a difficult environment
- Too much has gone on in my life
- My current situation just wouldn’t allow for it
- There’s too much going on in my head
Unless you are terminally ill and don’t have long to live, all of these beliefs are completely irrelevant. You can attract wealth, health, peace of mind and relationships into your life – period. In fact, even if you are terminally ill you can attract these things into your life, especially happiness and peace.
Correct Belief No.1) Money and looks are totally irrelevant when it comes to ‘attracting’ partner into your life, believe me or not: attraction is not a choice. You may not be able to get that ‘one special person’ that you want, but when you take on reality and realise everything is abundant, that is not going to affect you.
Example: Sean Stephenson (video) is a 3ft tall, 26 year old man, confined to a wheelchair and has multiple beautiful women in his life.
Correct Belief No.2) Did you know that over 50% of CEO’s in the UK do not have any college education, nevermind university degrees? The owner of Marks and Spencers (UK retail store) built his business to be worth hundreds of millions of pounds from nothing before selling it on.
Example: If that isn’t enough, look at me. I failed my first year of college and quit after my second year. Since then, through internet marketing, I’ve got investments worth over $30,000 and their value is growing steadily…at 19 years old.
Correct Belief No.3) Happiness and peace of mind are right here, right now. The reason that we struggle with this is because we always look for things to make us happy. Read this post to get a better idea of what I’m saying here. Also, if you prefer videos for this kind of thing, I recommend ‘Flowering of the Human Consciousness‘ by Eckhart Tolle (that is my review) which really helped me in this area.
In Summary
Whatever it is you want in life, go for it. Believe you can achieve it. If this post didn’t help then take a look at how you can begin to remove your self-limiting beliefs. In theory, Personal Development should be thought of as Personal Diminishment. It’s all about taking away the things that are holding us back from following our dreams and living the life we want to live.
You are enough to do anything you want to do. Accept it; if you need proof then BECOME that proof. Be the shining light that shows other’s it is possible. Look at inspirational videos that show the magic in this world and how lucky we are to be able to have dreams and go out there and achieve them.
The only thing holding you back is you. Cut the cord.